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Friday... It is a tremendous tool, but.


Friday... It is a tremendous tool, but.

The writer of Proverbs 14:13 (NLT) shares, "Laughter can conceal a heavy heart, but when the laughter ends, the grief remains." Are you a laugher? Do you use it to take you through difficult times? It is a tremendous tool. But it can also hide pain that needs help in healing.

I have found that there are times when I need to just give out a laugh. To see whatever has happened from a humorous perspective.  Again, laughter is a tremendous tool that God has given us to take us through life but there are also situations where we need help and grief is one of those areas, We really can't laugh away the grieving process. 

When my dad was killed, I needed help. Too many times in grief people try to hide it and go it alone and get stuck at one of the steps. Like the anger step. If we don't work through the process we can have a deep felt anger that can stay with us and damage our life and our relationships. We can't hide our grief through laughter. As the Proverbs says, "but when the laughter ends, the grief remains."

Now I'm a person that when I get hurt I try to laugh it off, but if there is a broken bone, laughter doesn't solve the problem. I need a doctor. Now, that is what I hear. I've never had a broken bone but I have had grief.

Let me iterate, if you have had a deep loss, you may need help to going through the process and there is a process. There are grief groups around, there are people who have gone through grief, who will help you, there are Pastors and Counselors who will really make a difference. Just laughing it off will not heal grief. If you are going through a deep loss and you are grieving, then you need to stop and find someone who will take you through the process of grieving to healing. It really will make a difference.

The same is true of abuse. We can't laugh off abuse, whether you are being abused or are the abuser.

The Amplified Bible says, "Even in laughter the heart may be in pain, and the end of joy may be grief." Yes, God has given us this tremendous tool to take us through situations in life but he also has given us friends and Pastors and Counselors to take us through deep losses. So let God work through what you are going through. 

The Message says, "Sure, those people appear to be having a good time, but all that laughter will end in heartbreak." God wants us to see through the laughter and to be on the lookout for those in real pain and to reach out to them. We really do need each other. Yes, yes! #todaysbeginning

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